When It Hurts

We all experience some sort of hurt and disappointment in life. It’s ongoing, really. The toddler who doesn’t get that piece of candy can turn a tantrum into a hurricane-like meltdown. The teen who doesn’t get picked for the team sport or prom court can really sting. Adults who don’t get the job after 3 rounds of interviews can experience hopelessness.

What to do when that happens? Simple answer is to get back up but I understand it’s easier to say than do depending on past experiences. For some, getting back up with the same amount of mojo seems un-doable because getting rejected often can surely wear on self-esteem and confidence. I know that feeling and it still happens in my life today.

What I have learned is NOT to take those seemingly hurtful and disappointing situations personally. Hash out what happened, figure out areas to work on, digest it, and move on. MOVE ON. Don’t stay stuck on that ugly moment. If you can’t get out of stuck mode, call a trusted friend. Sometimes we just need to hear ourselves talk it out and come up with our own answers of HOW to move on. All this work (which can feel daunting and hard) is all part of nurturing that part of ourselves that needs constant love and attention. It’s your life, right?